Last updated on September 11th, 2023 at 11:03 am We don’t start as little children wanting to be an emotional abuser. We often don’t even like how it feels to abuse. But somehow, somewhere, something happened. And now we are caught in a dynamic where we get abusive towards others, often towards those we are [...]read moreThe Emotional Abuser – WeConcile
Last updated on September 25th, 2023 at 03:34 pm We’ve all lost our shit. Yelled, screamed, slammed doors, or simply shut down, mute and immobile. Frozen in fear and uncertainty, or trapped in placating to keep the peace. We call this reactivity or Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn. Reactivity is an involuntary physiological change in [...]read moreRelationship Help for Reactivity – WeConcile
Last updated on September 25th, 2023 at 11:38 am 6/12/22 This morning I received an email from an early WeConcile App user. He said, Hi, I really want to work with WeConcile with my partner, but the app is extremely confusing. I was hoping to get a simple schedule of material to work through in [...]read moreWeConcile®, A Relationship App, User’s Guide – WeConcile
Last updated on September 11th, 2023 at 11:18 am Wounds, Triggers (and Attachment Needs) The following short 90-second video is one of my favorites of those I’ve done recently – because it clearly outlines why we get upset and what we must understand to reduce conflict. It addresses one of the keys to fixing a [...]read moreSecure Attachment – How to Create It – WeConcile
Last updated on September 21st, 2023 at 02:00 pm The WeConcile® App for Relationships Is Out!! As time unfurls and complexity and chaos seem to increase, we hold onto our hearts, ourselves, our relationships, and our purposes. To thrive we must find our center, and unravel ways of being that do not nourish us. We [...]read moreThe WeConcile® App For Relationships Is Out!! – WeConcile
Last updated on September 21st, 2023 at 02:16 pm Relational intelligence (RQ) Is More Than Emotional Intelligence My History I grew up in a household with anger issues, boundary issues, and many conflicts. We weren’t a family of healthy relationships. I wasn’t, for example, allowed to express my opinion if it differed from my father’s. [...]read moreRelational Intelligence = Healthy Relationships
Last updated on September 25th, 2023 at 11:11 am Self Support Helps Our Parenting How does a solid supportive relationship help our children? What happens to our children when our relationships are stressed. How do we get the support we need so we can be better parents? What are some positive parenting solutions? I watched [...]read moreSolutions To Help Parents – WeConcile
Last updated on September 25th, 2023 at 11:10 am What is a doormat? I’ve been creating short videos to help people understand different elements of what makes a relationship work or not work. My most popular video thus far is on being a doormat. Being a doormat is a term I got from Al-Anon years [...]read morePutting Up With Too Much? Stop Being A Doormat – WeConcile
Difficulty with Vulnerable Feelings What do you do when you are disappointed with your partner? Specifically, what we do when we are disappointed in our partners reveals our difficulties with our vulnerable feelings. These include feeling hurt, abandoned, sad, guilty, ashamed, and fragile. What we do (our behavior) when we are disappointed, hurt, or feel [...]read moreManaging Disappointment In A Relationship – WeConcile
Last updated on June 28th, 2024 at 08:11 am What’s New at WeConcile? Dear Friend, For many years, my mission has been helping others overcome challenges and difficulties and expand into fulfilling lives. Working with individuals and couples and creating WeConcile – a relationship app – have been huge aspects of this mission. The Female [...]read moreNew WeConcile Improvments – WeConcile